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Surrender & let go

Surrender & let go

I have been finding the theme of the last few months to be about surrender…..
For a control freak (as I was back in the day!) this was not a practise that came easily. I had been encouraged to let go and encouraged to surrender! But what was I surrendering to and what would become of me?????
It was a very scary proposition and one that saw me kicking and screaming…..
Not anymore I am pleased to say.

So now when the uncomfortable feelings come along I am more attuned to them and have learnt to embrace them. I no longer wish to be in charge – I no longer wish to control others – I no longer wish to know the outcome – I just want to allow all the grace, good and great to come my way and wish the same for each dear soul on this planet too.
I can however, get impatient in some areas of my life and want to demand an outcome – yes me demand an outcome!!
People seem surprised at this, but I find it all quite hysterical now and no longer beat myself up for being less that perfect (RELIEF!!).

I actually enjoy letting go but of course still find myself being presented with situations, people or scenarios that challenge me in this area. The difference now is that I understand what is behind it all – my separation from my Source – and boy oh boy that is painful!

I feel great appreciation when I am presented with these learning opportunities and I get out of my way quicker and quicker…. so when a recent relationship came my way, I found myself challenged and wanting to control the outcome…… I soon came to my knees realising that this ain’t gonna work and the only ‘work’ was to hand it over with LOVE.

It’s still unfolding and finding its way, as is everything in my life, but I know that I have attracted every experience and I know it is part of my growth….. I just have to be vigilant to the old ‘stories’ and then be prepared to surrender some more.

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How about you – how do you find this surrender thing?
Does it challenge you?
Does it leave you hiding, running away or trying to fill the void with food, alcohol, sex, shopping, fixing another or abusing yourself or another?
In this honest enquiry we can come to see that our control is fear based and was acquired from an old paradigm of ‘right and wrong’, ‘good and bad’ or having to ‘prove’ to ourselves or others our worth – but guess what – you don’t need to prove your worth to God! You are loved always and without exception.
Let this in and let yourself be loved without any justification whatsoever…..
Then say to yourself ” How can I love more?” and then say to the Universe, “Teach me to Love”

Take time out to be still and take time out from the ‘doing’ enter into your heart instead. Let it be your guide and trust that the outcome may not be what you planned but it will most definitely be for your higher good and probably even more beautiful that you could have imagined!

I look forward to hearing how it goes …….

Relax – Jeff Foster
The way I am facilitating workshops and working with my clients has inevitably taken on a different way too. I hold a clear intention and see each person as already whole and in alignment. I am less and less interested in people’s ‘past stories’ and more and more interested and creating the new and inspired ‘story’ – after all what we give energy to grows….. if we keep feeding the old how can the new evolve?

Balance is the key and what I have observed for true lasting change is this cycle….

Be Authentic

Own It

Accept It

Free It Up

Be Kind to Yourself

Tell a New Story

In short, feel what you feel and get real and cease apologising for the so called ‘mess’ – life isn’t always pretty and we can be so so harsh on ourselves if its not perfect. Once we do this we come to a place of acceptance and loosen up the grip by freeing up the stuck emotions, pain or suffering. Finding a way to free it up is very personal but for many it can be by dancing, resting, singing, painting, writing, walking, meditating, laughing, loving, gardening or anything that gets you out of your head (that’s legal of course!!!!). Then come back to self love and kindness by soothing your soul like you would a young child with great tenderness and warmth.
You are then free to start creating the new story and visualizing from a place of freedom, grace, delight and richness – and this really is where the FUN begins!

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As many of you know, Vital Danza has become one of the past times that frees me up. I have learnt to express my true essence through this medium and have experienced so much joy, fun, connection, bliss and surrender.
It has challenged me of course, as I have at times felt stuck, annoyed with myself or others and indeed played out many stories on the dance floor. But I have been willing to step (or dance) out of my comfort zone and do it anyway.
It is an ongoing journey and always an opportunity for expansion of mind-body-spirit. I have also witnessed this in others and it is so humbling and enriching to be part of a community that opens their hearts and soul in this way.

I invite you too – to be part of this experience.
Particularly if you are ready for change, self expression, bliss, joy, vitality and vast richness….
Come join myself and Helen Thatcher for a truly inspiring and uplifting weekend.
We have a few spaces left at the Summer Soul Retreat (22nd to 24th June) in the beautiful Didlington Manor in Norfolk.
We combine Vital Danza along with the Law of Attraction principles – plus meditation, self-enquiry, stillness and ceremony.

It may be the dancing that takes you out of your comfort zone or it may be the authentic stripping away of your stories that scares you – either way, I can guarantee you that it will be a truly inspiring weekend and your life will never be quite the same again. How bold of me to say that hey…. but I know it to be true, as I have seen again and again the transformation of those beautiful souls who have joined us in the past at other Soul Retreats. If you are hearing the calling too, do check out my website for full details and testemonials and do feel free to get in touch if you have any questions at all.

Ann Marie Marchant

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